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When young people were of an age to be married their parents or older relatives would arrange a union that would benefit both families. Sometimes these arrangements were made while the pair were still babies. Arranged marriages had a purpose, which was to expand the family unions outside the immediate one. The most honourable form of marriage took place when the bride's mother and father made the first approach to the groom's parents. Both sets of parents prepared a ceremonial event where gifts were given and a feast held. The suitor "touching" the bride he desired during dances and public ceremony contracted some marriages. One story tells of a young girl playing with her dolls who just happened to look up when a man passed by. Her aunt said that she was looking at him so she had to marry him. Various elders in the community still remember stories of how to care for the mate left behind. If a man's wife dies or a woman's husband dies, he or she is to be taken in as wife or husband to either a brother or sister of the deceased. If this arrangement was not acceptable sometimes a friend would be chosen to care for the widow or widower. It should be noted that before this happened consent had to be received from all parties involved. A feast was then shared amongst the people to recognize this union between the two people.
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